First of all, Happy Hannukah!
Second, I know you're hearing it already:
• "New Year, New me!"
• "This is going to be my year! I claim it!"
• "2023 is when I'm going to live my best life!"
• "My word for the year is..."
That last one sticks with me because it's become a recent trend. People know new year's resolutions don't work. Society has latched onto a year-defining word instead.
Are you in that camp? Do you know "the old-fashioned way" doesn't work and you want to find a new way? (Preferably one without peer pressure and social constructs).
Words of the year are fine. But here's where they fall short.
You need a plan of action.
I'm not talking about whipping out a planner or Notion and mapping out your entire year. I'm not talking about hyper-productivity secrets or selling you the latest project management SaaS.
I'm talking about the only things that work:
• Meaning & Motivation
I just spelled out an acronym: COMET. Last year, I released the COMET Goals eBook (below, a free download). This year, I want to look at it in a different light—as COMET Habits.
Because our habits make us or break us. We may be conscious of them, irritated by them, or even enlightened by them.
Here are the simple questions to ask yourself as you put your goals through this framework:
C - Consistency: What can you do consistently each day? Goals happen because of habits. Consistent action creates habits that lead to accomplishing goals. So what can you commit to doing consistently each day?
O - Ownership: Take ownership of your action—or lack of action. No excuses. No one is coming to accomplish this for you. No one is coming to save you. Take ownership of what you do consistently (or not) each day.
This means holding yourself accountable. When you fall off, take ownership of that. Then pick yourself up and get back to your consistent habit. Don’t whine, and don’t make up a story about it. Just move back into your desired habit.
M - Meaning / Motivation: Find your meaning. As Simon Sinek says, “Find your why.” WHY are you pursuing this goal? Is that going to be a good enough reason to keep going on the days it gets hard? If your “why” isn’t solid, your goal won’t be either. Right motivation goes a long way. Make sure you’re doing the right thing, at the right time, in the right place, for the right reasons.
E - Effort: How much effort are you willing to put in? Will you need days off or breaks? (Which is fine; recalibration is needed). Just see where you’re at. Feel into this question: How much effort will this take and am I willing/able to put forth this amount of effort? The answer may or may not surprise you, but it will likely raise your awareness and help you refine your goal.
T - Toughness (but not toxic toughness): What’s tougher? Your goal? Or YOU? The entire idea behind Destiny Architecture is that YOU are the architect of your own destiny. So I’m betting you’re pretty tough. The fun part is, we get tougher and smarter as we pursue our goals. This is true whether we succeed or not! We still grow. When you remember this, you realize you have nothing to lose. Let that bolster you and make you fearless as you pursue your goals with confidence.
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